There is nothing more frustrating than getting my hands on a potentially informative “how to” book, only to find upon completion, that I have learned absolutely nothing new. I have high hopes that there will be great insight for making my minimalist hopes a reality. I need an easy, realistic, virtually pain free, “baby steps” process to make all my dreams come true. I need something to be spelled out for me and tell me exactly what to do. I look around me, see all the stuff, and immediately say, “Nope. I can’t do this”. I have failed before I have even started.
I am definitely NOT a hoarder. I have, however, inherited the pack-rat gene. (Obstacle #1) Yep, it’s true. Admitting the problem is the first step to recovery, am I right?! It has taken me a very long time to get a grip on it. At first, I was in denial. I couldn’t possibly do what my parents AND grandparents did. Then, through some in depth soul-searching, my eyes were opened, and all my stuff stared me down and slapped me in the face. Oh. My. Gosh. I hold onto stuff, “just in case”, exactly like they did. I didn’t think it was a problem, until it WAS a problem. At that point, I decided I needed to dig in and get rid of things. Obstacle #2- I have a great deal of emotional attachment to my stuff. I have good reason to be this way. I have a pretty small family, and both my parents have passed on. I am so afraid that if I get rid of things, I am going to forget all the memories that go with them. Most of these things have no real value to anyone but me. Obstacle #3- I have things set aside for all those amazing creative, craftsy ideas that are floating around in my head. I have A LOT of great ideas, and they always reveal themselves when I lie down for bed, or wake me up at 2:30 in the morning. Seriously. So now, I have piles, bins, and baskets stuffed full of these projects in various stages of completion. Ostacle #4- I also have piles of broken things that I feel I can fix. I am a handy person. I love to fix things. I’m good at fixing things. I SHOULD fix the things.
My tips for MY obstacles seem to work for me. I would love to think that they will work for everyone, but, we know how that goes. If you haven’t tried them, by all means, give it a try. It might surprise you.
Obstacle #1- Admitting you have too much stuff is a HUGE deal. You’ve recognized it. Now you notice all that stuff sitting around.That’s good! It’s time to watch it go away.
Obstacle #2- When it comes to MY emotional obstacles, I decided that taking a digital picture(s) of the item, and getting rid of the actual item will still allow me to recollect the memory associated with the item without actually having the item IN MY HOUSE. It works, and I love it.
Obstacle #3- This one was one of the hardest for me. I have these visions of amazing projects becoming even more amazing things I will cherish forever…. HA! I have such a giant pile of projects, I don’t think I’ll be done by the time I’m ready to retire. Having said that, I have become very brutal with my decisions of what to keep. Honestly, I threw away probably 100 projects I wanted to do. Why? I have had some of these projects since before I moved into my current home… 18 YEARS AGO. Yep, you guessed it. Buh-bye! It’s not going to happen if it hasn’t by now.
Obstacle #4- This obstacle very closely resembles obstacle #3. Most of the items in my “to fix” bin have been there for years. My intentions for wanting to fix these things is warranted, but, obviously, I haven’t missed it enough to bother with fixing, so, out it goes. It feels good, doesn’t it? I’m breathing a deep sigh of relief right now.
I am going to spell it out for YOU and tell YOU what to do. I have two ideas that will rock your world. The first one is “5 things”. I want you to commit to getting rid of 5 things a day. That isn’t hard to do. It could be as simple as those sad socks that lost their mate a year ago, or the ink pen that writes terribly but is oh-so cute. Seriously, throw it away. Just let it happen! 5 THINGS will change you! If you started today, by the end of the year you would have 1,825 less things! Really!
Here’s idea number two… My friend introduced me to a little pot of gold… two simple words… POWER HOUR. This may not seem all that great, but, this will soon be your best friend. Imagine an entire phone free, facebook free, snapchat free hour, listening to your most motivational music, focusing on one thing, and taming the beast. Throw things away. Clean. Organize. Exercise. For one incredibly focused hour. Then, at the end of your hour, look around at what you’ve done and celebrate! You deserve it! By all means, if you feel like continuing, do it! You don’t have to though, and that’s okay. It’s progress.
My take on the “how to” of decluttering works for me. I have gotten rid of so many things! I literally breathe a sigh of relief when I look around and things have a home. I feel less stressed. That, my friends, is what it’s all about.